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How (and When) to Find a Therapist for Your Child

A child therapist helping a child through play therapy

If it’s not your industry, finding a therapist (or counsellor) for your child can be a confusing and sometimes stressful business. Making sense of the many different kinds of therapist qualifications, registering bodies and the huge variation in fees can be overwhelming. If you do think you’ve found just the right therapist, they may have long waiting lists or live miles away. Here we aim to make the process easier by giving some information on qualifications, approved databases and what Child in Time can do to help.

When to Seek a Child Therapist or Counsellor

The first step is deciding whether your child’s behaviour requires them to receive therapy. Whilst we can all benefit from therapy and it is certainly not going to do harm, it can be expensive so knowing if it is the right course of action is important.

Signs that it is time to get help:

Your child’s behaviour has changed or deteriorated to the point where their mental health is affecting everyday life, such as friendships, eating/sleeping, school attendance.

Or

Your child has experienced a significant trauma or is coping with the serious illness of a loved one, even if they are not showing signs of distress.

First Points of Contact

It may be helpful to speak to your child’s school initially in case they have a counsellor or therapist who could provide free sessions. Some children benefit from therapy in school as it is a familiar environment and they are often used to seeing other children attend therapy. However, other children may find it hard to engage in school as they are worried about what others might think.

It can be a good idea to see your GP. They may identify other physical factors that could be having an impact. They may also be able to make a referral to CAMHS (Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services), which is an NHS service where children are assessed and a treatment plan is then recommended. However, the reality is that CAMHS waiting lists tend to be long and the threshold for referrals is high. Finally, your GP may be linked in to local trusted mental health providers that they could recommend.

Finding a Therapist Yourself

If you are at the point of looking for an independent therapist the following information may be helpful.  We highly recommend employing a therapist who has been specifically trained to work with children. 

Types of Accredited Therapists/Counsellors

Art Therapists

Art Therapists, Drama Therapists, Movement Therapists, Play Therapists – these forms of therapy require practitioners to be specialist in psychotherapeutic skills as well as modes of creativity. They are especially helpful for young children and those with verbal impairment but are also popular with adolescents and adults, as creative expression supports regulation and processing of trauma.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapist (CBT)

CBT therapists employ a more structured and often short term approach that focuses on a child’s unhelpful thoughts and behaviours and aims to identify and modify them into more positive ones.

Child Psychotherapist

The approach of Child and Adolescent Psychotherapists seek to look beneath the surface of difficult emotions, behaviours and relationships to help children, adolescents and their families to understand themselves and their problems. They are trained to carefully observe what a child or young person might be communicating non-verbally through their behaviour and play. An integrative psychotherapist is one who is trained to use a range pf psychotherapeutic approaches to treat clients.

Child Counsellor

This is a very broad term so it’s important to look at the specific training and experience if you are employing a child counsellor. The minimum of a PGdip qualification (post graduate diploma) or level 5 counselling is recommended. Some Child Counsellors will focus more on a specific problem and less on a child’s past and may offer a shorter term treatment but many counsellor’s will work in a similar way to child psychotherapists or art therapists (see above).  

Child Psychologist

Psychologists are trained to doctoral level in psychology backgrounds, and their focus is typically diagnosing and conducting evaluations and assessments to support the work of therapy and counselling, although they may carry out some focused therapeutic work in addition.

Finding a Trusted Clinician

Some titles, like counsellor and psychotherapist are not protected, meaning anyone can be called one, check for the use of “registered” in front of their title to ensure they are fully qualified. In order to ensure that the therapist that you employ has the correct qualification and follows best practice guidance always gain verification of their membership of a recognised registering body.  These include:

Health and Care Professions Council

UK Council for Psychotherapy

British Association for Behavioural and Cognitive Psychotherapies (BABCP)

British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP)

Association of Child Psychotherapists

British Association of Play Therapists

A full list can be found here.

You can aso check a therapists’ registered status here.

Finding a Local Therapist

Once you have decided which type of therapist you would like to employ, there are a number of online directories which require practitioners to prove their registered status in order to list their services. These can help you to find a local therapist with the right training and experience:

BAAT – art therapists

BACP – counsellors/psychotherapists

UKCP – counsellors/psychotherapists

BPS  Psychologists

BAPT – Play Therapists

When choosing a therapist it is a good idea to set up a few initial meetings, as successful therapy relies as much on a good relational match as it does on the skills and experience of the therapist. Many practitioners will offer free initial phone calls or reduced initial meetings.

Here are some ideas of what to ask in an initial meetings:

  • What is the age range of who they work with?
  • How much experience does the therapist have?
  • Have they worked with children and families with concerns similar to what is bringing your child to therapy?
  • Are they doing online, in-person, or a combination for sessions?
  • How can you best support your child’s mental health needs at home?
  • What modality does the therapist work in? (Most younger children will probably be doing some kind of play-based therapy)
  • Do they work in school holidays?
  • What is their session cancellation and therapy termination policy?

How Can Child in Time Help:

Child in Time specialises in counselling for children within the school environment. We do not provide private counselling or therapy for children but we do have online parent consultation sessions. Through our online parent consultation sessions, our family specialist practitioners can advise you on how to find a therapist. Sometimes it can help to talk to someone in order to establish a plan of action for finding the right therapist.

A Child in Time specialist can talk through your child’s presentation and history in order to advise on which type of therapist might be suitable as well as any other family interventions that might be sought, such as family sessions, ongoing parent support or practitioners that will support a child’s wider well being and development, such as an Occupational Therapist.

We hope this helps and wish you all the best in finding the right therapist for you and your family!

Testimonials

The Counselling provision at our school is now excellent. This is due to Chloe’s understanding of the needs of pupils, parents and the school as an organization. I would whole-heartedly recommend ‘Child in Time’ to head-teachers considering their own counselling provision.

Head-teacher of Woolmore School, Tower Hamlets

Parent Consultation: They have become much better at expressing their feelings and opening up to me and their siblings.

Parent, 2023

School Counselling: My son has completely turned around and is simply wonderful at the moment. He is back to his normal self at home, being very happy, caring and kind. He is especial kind and caring with his sister and just the best brother ever now. As a family, we are happy and content.

Parent, 2023

It is quality time well spent not letting pupils leave with negative patterns that make them vulnerable beyond school. One of the best decisions I have made.

Head-teacher of St Saviour’s School, Tower Hamlets

You have helped me build a barrier of protection against pain and I can’t thank you enough for that…I have never felt so emotionally strong.

Student, aged 15

Child in Time is a tremendous resource for head-teachers. It’s a consultancy that offers a short-cut to setting up a counselling service in your school with highly trained, qualified practitioners. Child in Time brings peace of mind to staff, knowing that the most vulnerable students are in safe hands.

Tereza Nogueira, Child and Adolescent Psychotherapist and Senior supervisor UKCP

This intervention has had an enormous, positive impact for us all and we sincerely hope that other families benefit from the same programme…his positive behaviour is having a really good impact on all elements of his school life.

Parent of child, age 8

I am glad I am coming to see you every Thursday because I used to hold all these things in my head and that was hard.

Girl, age 10

We are very happy with the counselling service we are receiving and in particular ‘our therapist’s’ flexible and accommodating nature. Parents are very pleased, both the target children’s parents and the consultation one’s too.

SENCO, Rhodes Avenue School, Haringey

She is an outstanding therapist who has made a real difference to the lives of pupils in our school. ‘Our therapist’ possesses excellent skills in connecting with others, creating a safe space for staff, parents and pupils to discuss a range of issues. Her expertise, compassion, and dedication are truly commendable and we have really benefited from her thorough understanding of child development and psychology.

Deputy Head, Highgate Pre-Prep

I want to say thank you. I found these sessions very very helpful. I could talk about anything with you. I remember our first one, when I was so worried that everything was my fault. I can now see things more clearly.

student, age 11